Not Everyone Is Suitable To Be Your Friend

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Not Everyone Is Suitable To Be Your Friend

Not Everyone Is Suitable To Be Your Friend

1 – Allah Said:

“Ah! Woe to me! If only I had never taken so-and-so as a friend! He indeed led me astray from the Reminder after it had come to me!” [al-Furqan; 28-29]

 

2 – The Messenger of Allah said:

 

“A person is upon the way of his friend. So, let one of you look to whom he keeps as a friend.”

[‘Sahih al-Jami” (3545) and ‘as-Silsilah as-Sahihah’ (927)]

 

3 – ‘Abdullah bin Ahmad bin Hambal said:

“My father went out to Tarsus on foot, and he perfored two or three Hajjs on foot, and he was the most patient of people upon being alone.”

[‘Tarjamat al-Imam Ahmad’; p. 18]

 

4 – Ibn al-Qayyim said:

 

“Know that the greatest of losses is for you to be preoccupied with one who will bring you nothing but a loss in your time with Allah – the Mighty and Majestic – and being cut off from Him, a wasting your time with the person, a weakening of your energy, and the dispersing of your resolve. So, if you are tested with this – and you must be tested with this – deal with him according to how Allah would wish, and be patient with him as much as possible. Get closer to Allah and His Pleasure by way of this person, and make your getting together with him something to benefit from, not something to incur a loss from. Be with him as if you are a man who is on a road who was stopped by another man, who then asks you to take him on your journey. Make sure that you are the one who gives him a ride, and that he is not the one giving you the ride. If he refuses, and there is nothing to gain from travelling with him, do not stop for him, bid him farewell, and do not even turn back to look at him, as he is a highway robber, regardless of who he really is.

So, save your heart, be wary of how you spend your days and nights, and do not let the Sun set before you arrive at your destination.”

[‘al-Wabil as-Sayyib’; p. 45]