“Forgive whoever Wrongs you.”

In our lives, Allah puts every single one of us in a situation where we have nothing else but to utter “I do not know what’s best for me anymore, you know it so grant me the best and grant me things that have your pleasure in them”.

People we thought were good friends have back-stabbed.
Lovers we thought would never leave us alone have left us dying during the times we needed them the most.
Parents who gave birth to us disown, misunderstand and call us names.
When life on earth feels like judgment day we all have nothing but to turn to Allah and ask for guidance. Because truly He knows and we know not.

At a point, usually life changing one, we realize we all fail big time at making decisions for ourselves and at thinking WE KNOW WHATS BEST FOR US. Wallahi we do not. Allah’s worst trials and hard hitting rejections of what we want are huge blessings that are redirecting us, preventing us and protecting us from further pain and heartache.

If you did not get what you wanted know Allah has a better plan and Allah’s NO is a bigger and better dua that you did not even make being answered.

📚 ❝But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.❞
{Surah Al Baqarah 2: Verse 216}

📚 ❝The reality of faith is knowing that what has passed you by was not going to befall you; and that what has befallen you was not going to pass you by.❞
– Prophet Muhammad صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ
[Tabarani]

📚 ❝Know that if the whole world were to gather together in order to help you, they would not be able to help you except if Allah had written so. And if the whole world were to gather together in order to harm you, they would not harm you except if Allah had written so. The pens have been lifted, and the pages are dry.❞
– Prophet Muhammad صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ
[Tirmidhi]

➤ Final thoughts….
🌸 LESSONS and NOT regrets…

📚 ❝If something befalls you, do not say, ‘If only I had done otherwise,’ but rather say, ‘Allah’s Will be done,’ for ‘if only’ opens the door to Satan’s mischief. ❞
Prophet Muhammad صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ
[Bukhari]

As humans when we are in this state we have to use our available means around us and have tawakkul. This might mean giving up or may mean that you have to try harder and give it your all. But how can we assess which path to take?

Shall I give up on this person/goal/relationship?
Shall I try harder and invest more time, money and effort?

Ironically there is noway to know which was is the true way and what choice is right. We have to make life decisions after istekhara and shuara of elders and those with maturity and insight into life’s finer details (also life coaches/counselors).

What we do need to remember is, no matter what choice we make there is no point in beating ourselves up thinking “what could have or would have been”. What’s done is done, learn lessons and move on.

If the CHOICE you made proved to be WRONG learn LESSONS and move on.
If the CHOICE you made proved to be RIGHT thank Allah, still LEARN LESSONS and move on.

We have to give up on the illusion that we can control everything in our live. Allah will never hold us accountable for things that were never in our control. What we must do is access things with the aid of our limited ability, put the best effort forth and ultimately leave the outcome to Allah.

📚 ❝And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah – then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent.❞
{Surah At Talaq 65: Verse 3}