Duties of Children Towards their Parents:

Islam imposes different duties upon children towards fathers and mothers, such as:

1- Respecting them, they shouldn’t utter a word that can get them angry, nor oppress them nor do anything that gets them sad,
17:23. “Don’t say to them a word of contempt”

2- Islam prohibits talking loudly of any insult, curse, scold, rebuke, admonishment or blame in front of them,
17:23“nor repel them”

3- Islam puts the basis to deal with them by good words and honorable phrases,
17:23. “but address them in terms of honor”

4- Islam urges sons to spend their money for parents, to obey their orders and to fulfill their wishes without any grumble or complaint. The prophet (Blessings and peace of God be upon him) said: “You and your wealth are your parents’.”[1]

5- Islam recommends a Muslim not to take any important decision in his life such as travel, marriage or business without consulting them and getting their agreement, their agreement is essential for such deeds to be right and successful.

6- Islam makes honoring parents that means doing good to them, obeying their orders and fulfilling their wishes the first thing a Muslim should care about after doing the rights of God, God says:
17:23. “Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents.”

7- Islam warns sons from disobeying parents and makes such thing leads to bad end of one’s life, and promises someone who disobeys parents that he will be punished for this sin in particular during his life before his death. The prophet (Blessings and peace of God be upon him) said: “God delays what He wills from all sins to the Day of Judgment except disobeying parents, God hastens it to the doer in life before death.”[2]
Man’s honoring and obeying parents in Islam is not only during their lifetime, but Islam makes them also have right after their death. A man asked the prophet: (Is there still anything by which I obey and honor my parents after their death?) The prophet said: “Yes, praying for them, asking forgiveness for them, fulfilling their covenant, honoring their friends and keeping in touch with the kinship from their sides.”[3]

[1] Narrated by Ibn-Hebban and Al-Bayhaky after A’isha.
[2] Narrated by Al-Hakem in Al-Mostadrak Ala Assaheehayn after Abu-Bakra.
[3] Mentioned by Al-Bukhary in Ketab Al-Adab after Abu-No’aym.